- Bleach blondes
2. Dark brown/black brunettes
That's all that's left, folks. Red is almost extinct - and the redheads that are left are fake redheads - and in-between stages anywhere from blonde-brown don't even exist. Natural beauty is an old-fashioned idea, and those of us who try to rely on our "natural" beauty are up against - not other natural beauty - but money.
Have you ever been walking down the street and see a woman from behind... she has long, tan legs, and bleach-blonde hair... Did you automatically assume she's beautiful? When she turns around, is she disappointingly average? That happens to me all the time. Even my husband, who is clearly a brunette fan, finds blondes head-turning. It's not his fault, it's what our society is teaching us now. We have been conditioned to believe blonde & tan is the epitome of beautiful.
|This is just a tiny sampling of the blonde celebrities. They definitely dominate. Top to bottom: Paris Hilton, Heather Locklear, Hillary Duff, Katherine Heigl, Kate Hudson, Cameron Diaz, Christina Aguilera, Reese Witherspoon, and Charlize Theron|
Now, personally, I think the brunettes are much more appealing:
|Mila Kunis, Natalie Portman, Olivia Wilde, Sandra Bullock, Brunette Hilary Duff, Jessica Alba, Jessica Biel, Megan Fox, Penelope Cruz, Angelina Jolie, Courtney Cox, Kristen Stewart|
...Even the redheads get more credit from me (whether they are natural or not):
|Lindsay Lohan (when she was pretty), Marcia Cross, Julia Roberts, Scarlet Johansson, Julianne Moore, Amy Adams, Debra Messing, and Kate Walsh (my favorite!)|
for the lack of redheadedness that goes on in Hollywood!)
Honestly, though, I had to Google "red head actress" because I could only think of two.
Back to the blondes... Mostly I'm speaking about the girls I see out around where I live - especially within my own city, but I know it's bigger than just that. There are 5 bleach-blonde/tan girls to every 1 fair-skinned brunette. (This is of course my own estimate, not an actual statistic.)
I think it's sad that I leave the house feeling like I look really pretty (and I'm sure I'm not the only one who does this), just to get out there and realize I can't even begin to measure up to the other women out there because they are armed with their money, not their actual looks. $100 dye jobs, $25/week in the tanning bed, $35 manicures, etc., etc., etc. What's the point in being yourself when everyone else's fake skin, hair and nails are just going to outshine us anyway?
Now, I admit, I'm far too image-focused these days. I have some pretty serious self esteem issues to work through since some recent events destroyed what self respect I had for myself (hooray for therapy!), but if you were really honest with yourself you'd probably find that you're more image-focused than you'd like to admit, too. We have been conditioned to be that way, and I blame things like TV, advertisements, and celebrities with no substance (see above) -- but the reasons why don't matter so much right now.
The fact is, no matter how many gorgeous dark-haired women appear in the media (like my personal favorite, Marion Cotillard), the real people I see are still dominantly blonde - and very, very few of those are natural blondes.
The point of all this:
Last night my sweet friend Courtney cut and colored my hair. I am sick of trying to find new shades of brown, so this time, I did an experiment and went blonde(r).
It's not platinum or anything, but it's way more blonde than I have ever put in my hair, and I have to tell you, I automatically felt prettier when I saw it finished. I don't know if that's true, maybe I look much better with brown hair:
but that's exactly my point. Is the blonde thing just something we're trained to think is better? Maybe I'm 100 times better looking with brown hair... but I don't know because even my vision is clouded by my new shiny head of hair.