"We're staying together for the kids."
Does anyone even believe that anymore? I know tons of research exists on how damaging divorce is for children, but most divorced people I talk to (and children of divorce) say they split up for the sake of their children. Sometimes it's just more damaging for kids to watch their parents destroy each other.
Today I had a conversation with my friend Lisa and she told me her ex husband is finally figuring out that it's all about the kids, not him, and they are "much better friends than we ever were married." This is becoming true about Steve and me. He's helping me get everything settled, he picks me up every morning at 4:45am so I can take the car to work, even though that means he won't have a car for lunch. It's actually working out quite peacefully, and sometimes I wonder how we survived in turmoil for so long. Kids are more resilient than you think they are, and my boys seem to be adjusting even better than I am.
In between working my NEW position at work, which has rescued me from the fitting room but forces me to wake up at 4:15 in the morning, I'm spending a lot of time with music. It's always my therapy when I need it, and it certainly isn't failing me now.
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